Lessons in Fabulosity #1: When the Little Suckers Don’t Eat
One of my biggest struggles with the girl squad has been getting them to eat! Forget healthy. I’m just talking about eating. Period. At any given point of infanthood or toddlerhood, they have gone through phases where they either stop eating or just start disliking every food on the planet except Mac N Cheese.
As the stay-at-home-mom, all three meals fall onto my shoulders because the kids even have their dinner before Faris makes it home from work. I’m single-handedly struggling to fill up their stubborn lil bellies – and that is no easy feat.
I’ve tried letting them just have the stupid Mac n Cheese every night. I mean, eventually they’ll get sick of it and come around right?
No. One of them came around, but the other one continued happily eating it until she started looking like one long limp macaroni to me. Any time I forced anything else into her mouth, she would gag or even throw it up a few minutes later.
So, I tried to get creative.
I started blending veggies into their foods as sauce, made veggie muffins with a taste of sweetness to fool them, made fun shaped foods to appeal to them, invited over friends so they are all motivated to eat together (and get worn out before bedtime!). It would work here and there, but mostly my trash can was eating my efforts more than my child.
So life after kids was not feeling too fabulous at this point. Until I had a bright idea of how to get my kids fed without me having an anxiety attack.
LET DAD HAVE THE ANXIETY ATTACK INSTEAD.
That’s right – if they can produce em, they can struggle to feed em too.
Hope you weren’t expecting something more scientific or an actual effective strategy. The reality of all of this is that sometimes us moms just need to chill out a little bit. You know that kids will eventually eat normally when they’re ready, right? They’ll never starve themselves. They just fill up on snacks and milk and other little things. And by a certain age, all kids are eating just fine anyway. As long as they’re active and happy, there is nothing to be concerned about. Their palettes will also expand as they grow older. Things will change. It will get easier. I’m sure you’ve heard all this from your Pediatricians already. Please do yourself and your co-pays a favor and start believing them!
So I like to save the battle for dad every now and then.
Yes it throws their schedule off a little bit, and no, there’s no guarantee they’ll eat for him either. But, at least your blood pressure isn’t rising in the process. Go lock yourself in your bedroom for a few minutes. There’ll be plenty more hunger games for you to fight tomorrow.
Stay fabulous mommas!