Lessons in Fabulosity #4: A clean home.
I may not live in tornado alley in Texas, but if you ever walk into my home unannounced, you’ll be convinced that an F5 tornado has just passed through.
My living room has the comfiest sectional sofa ever; the kind you just love to sink into at the end of a long day. What you end up sinking into though, more often than not, are mini figurines and small plastic play kitchen toys. But other than that, two scooters, dress-up costumes, a few balls, a construction set and some Legos, this room is not too shabby.
The playroom which should have been the dining room looks like the aftermath of a battlefield – doll casualties in piles and every other toy and plastic contraption in devastating piles too.
And that’s still not bad. The real damage zone is our bedroom.
Upon walking in, you’ll have already stepped on some variety of diapers and diaper rash cream tubes, while surveying endless empty or filled Amazon boxes stacked everywhere. On a very lucky day, you’ll also see an entire mountain made of wipes that were ecstatically pulled out by the baby.
My nightstand and desk are generally covered with several used children’s medicine syringes, kids books, toys, extra hair ties and bows, years of unopened mail because the hubs refuses to go paperless, and an empty cereal bowl from three days ago. My laundry baskets full of clean clothes are strewn all over the floor and mixed up with dirty clothes dragged out from the bathroom.
You get the gist.
Life doesn’t have to be this way. But it also kinda does. Because I can either run around keeping the kids alive all day, or I can run around picking up after the kids all day. It’s three against one, so I choose life. For my kids and myself.
Setting unrealistic expectations for the perfect looking home only leads to frustration and some way or another that frustration gets taken out on your kids. So I let it go. My standards as a human being overall have gone down anyway, so why not this too.
Part of being fabulous is being real and being confident in what your reality is. Own up to your new standard of clean and don’t let it take away from what an amazing mother you are to your kids. Their happy faces are worth more than a sparkling house. And besides, even if you do clean, it’ll look just like it did before in under five minutes anyway.